Relationships & Fights

A lot of us don't like it when we fight with our significant other. But as much as we dislike it, we can't just Hate it. We still have to accept and work with it. Don't ever let it get to the point where you're so against it, that you do hate it, and ends up building a wall in defense.

Think of it this way.. say you were forced to go see a movie/play that you just hate.. What would you most likely do? Sit there attentively.. or sit there being irritated and thinking about how much you don't want to be there? and within that process.. are you hearing any words they're saying? Are you following the story they're trying to tell?  

 The same thing goes with fighting with your other half. Fights aren't pleasant, but it's okay if it happens. Like they say.. a relationship should be 80% happiness and 20% other. We can't expect to have a relationship and not have fights. A minimal amount of disagreement is okay. If your in a relationship with no disagreements whatsoever.. that could mean.. either one of you is just holding it all in and most likely to explode one day... or one doesn't care enough that they just give in all the time cause it doesn't really matter. 

In my opinion, to have a more productive argument, we must go through it with an open mind and an open heart. We can't shut each other out if we want our relationships to work. It's normal if there's some raising of voices, as long as we all pull ourselves back down to a calm state and listen to each other. We have to somewhat love those moments as we love our happy ones.

If we focus on how much we don't like or hate to argue, we're not gonna be able to listen and compromise with each other. Listening is the key, then voicing our problems, and compromising. I'm sure we all have our own values, opinions, views, and also our egos.. but we have to learn when to stand up for it, when to back down, and when to meet half way. 

Last but not the least, don't ever let a fight go on for so long.. Don't ever go to bed with that anger. For the most of us, that's probably the most time you'll have to be alone, close, and intimate with your beloved one.. you don't want to bring that negative energy there... cause you never know what will happen tomorrow.

ALL kinds of relationships won't work if it's only a one way street. You must give what you want to receive.. Don't expect something you can't/won't give. Think "WE" not "ME"

 *Fight for each other, not with each other*

- MarjonelleM -
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